5 tips for maintaining mental wellbeing during the holidays

While the holiday season is often celebrated, it can also generate a complex blend of stress and expectations for many individuals. Kimberly Vest, the Clinic Director at Ellie Mental Health-Hampton Avenue and a Certified First Responder Counselor with over 18 years in the mental health field, emphasizes the significance of approaching the holidays with intention instead of succumbing to societal pressures or seasonal chaos. Here are five strategies Vest shares to help navigate the season with more ease and purpose:

• Recognize the “shoulds” in your life. The holiday period is frequently filled with obligations, from family gatherings to work parties, leading us to do things merely because we feel we “should.” Vest highlights that this mindset may not always support our mental health. When you receive an invitation or consider an event, take a moment to reflect: “Does this bring me joy?” If it doesn’t, she encourages you to feel confident in declining. It’s entirely permissible to say “no” to commitments that don’t enhance your well-being. Your time and energy are valuable, so invest them in activities that uplift you, rather than deplete you.
• Emphasize what brings you happiness. The holidays shouldn’t just be about fulfilling expectations or attending events; they’re about prioritizing what genuinely brings you joy. Whether it’s cooking a meal with close friends, savoring your favorite seasonal treats, or taking a peaceful stroll with your dog, Vest advises you to immerse yourself in the activities that fill your heart with happiness. If enjoying a shopping spree is your way of celebrating, then indulge in it. Conversely, if you prefer a cozy night in, that’s completely acceptable too. This is your holiday season, Vest states, so make it meaningful in a way that resonates with you.
• Establish boundaries and plan your time. Sometimes, participation in family events is unavoidable. In such cases, it’s important to set clear boundaries to safeguard your mental health. Before attending, determine how long you will stay and adhere to it. For instance, Vest suggests you think, “I will go, I will stay for two hours, and I will treat others with kindness.” By setting intentions for your outing, you can navigate the event with clarity. If the atmosphere becomes uncomfortable, Vest notes that you’ll be ready to leave without feelings of guilt or regret.
• Practice self-compassion. The holiday season can evoke various unexpected emotions, including grief, stress, or anxiety. It’s crucial to acknowledge and honor your feelings rather than suppress them. Remember, Vest says, that emotions serve as essential messages—they guide us when something feels right or wrong, or when we require a break. Give yourself permission to process these difficult emotions at a rhythm that suits you. Taking the time to appreciate and confirm your feelings can be vital to your healing, particularly in a season where triggers can be prevalent.
• Be courageous and accept being misunderstood. Not everyone will grasp your choices, and that’s perfectly fine, according to Vest. Whether it involves altering family traditions or deciding not to attend a holiday event, remember that you are not obligated to explain your decisions to anyone. Those who care about you will respect your choices, and it’s essential to trust your instincts. By staying true to your needs, Vest affirms that you are crafting a holiday experience that reflects your values and nurtures your well-being.